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How to Control Your Anger !
Controlling your anger isn't easy. Here are some instructions on how you can keep it in check.
Steps
Breathe. When we become angry, our breathing pattern becomes short and shallow. Focus on taking a few deep breathes to change that response.
Find the "purpose" of why you get angry. Most of the times there is no need to be angry.
Look at the situation from other person's perspective. Get their view before you jump to conclusions.
Look at the effects of your anger on the other person. It spoils their mood, upsets, frightens, and demotivates the other person.
Count reverse from ten to zero till you get back to your senses.
Leave and give yourself a "time out."
Identify what you enjoy doing most. It could be painting, reading, exercising, or just shopping. Just involve yourself in it.
Tips
If you feel anger taking over you,remove yourself from the situation before things become too heated.
Be diplomatic or make a witty comment, instead of just yelling. This way, if the other person overreacts, it makes you look good and them look bad.
Ask yourself if the future recipient of your furor deserves to be blown up at, or if you are just using them as a punching bag to release steam about another person/issue that bothers you.
Sometimes, instead of talking to someone directly, it is more appropriate to write a letter.
Taking yoga can be a long-term solution to anger problems, allowing you to focus on your feels and release your stress.
If at all possible, remove yourself from the situation. It's amazing the difference 8-hours of sleep or a 5-minute walk can make. Time gives you distance from the issue, allowing you to put things into prespective.
Find a creative outlet, such as writing, drawing etc. where you can expend your energy. Hobbies help elevate your mood and allow you to channel energy that you'd usually spent dwelling on issues that you aren't able to resolve. Imagine what you could do with the energy you expend in anger if you channelled it into something else.
Warnings
If you feel like you lose control when you're angry, seek psychological help.
Anger is never, ever an excuse to strike out at or abuse (physically or verbally) the people around you.
Words can hit harder than fists - try not to lash out with angry, hurtful comments.
Steps
Breathe. When we become angry, our breathing pattern becomes short and shallow. Focus on taking a few deep breathes to change that response.
Find the "purpose" of why you get angry. Most of the times there is no need to be angry.
Look at the situation from other person's perspective. Get their view before you jump to conclusions.
Look at the effects of your anger on the other person. It spoils their mood, upsets, frightens, and demotivates the other person.
Count reverse from ten to zero till you get back to your senses.
Leave and give yourself a "time out."
Identify what you enjoy doing most. It could be painting, reading, exercising, or just shopping. Just involve yourself in it.
Tips
If you feel anger taking over you,remove yourself from the situation before things become too heated.
Be diplomatic or make a witty comment, instead of just yelling. This way, if the other person overreacts, it makes you look good and them look bad.
Ask yourself if the future recipient of your furor deserves to be blown up at, or if you are just using them as a punching bag to release steam about another person/issue that bothers you.
Sometimes, instead of talking to someone directly, it is more appropriate to write a letter.
Taking yoga can be a long-term solution to anger problems, allowing you to focus on your feels and release your stress.
If at all possible, remove yourself from the situation. It's amazing the difference 8-hours of sleep or a 5-minute walk can make. Time gives you distance from the issue, allowing you to put things into prespective.
Find a creative outlet, such as writing, drawing etc. where you can expend your energy. Hobbies help elevate your mood and allow you to channel energy that you'd usually spent dwelling on issues that you aren't able to resolve. Imagine what you could do with the energy you expend in anger if you channelled it into something else.
Warnings
If you feel like you lose control when you're angry, seek psychological help.
Anger is never, ever an excuse to strike out at or abuse (physically or verbally) the people around you.
Words can hit harder than fists - try not to lash out with angry, hurtful comments.
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