whats the difference?

[Vandfald]

okay. i don't know if this subject is in the right "thread" or not.

:/ sorry if i had put it in the wrong place, but whatever.

for many years ago didn't people (the men) really care about the womens feelings. and they always looked down and called a woman for a "hoe" if she had sleept with a guy, and she should be really ashamed. they even tried to kill her sometimes, or send her away from the family, so people wouldn't talk about her.

but life change. now some people think is okay, but still in our culture isn't it the same. It's wrong if a girl has sex with a man, but if a man does it, people don't give a damn about it. i think it's kinda desipointed. i mean , if people make a "rule" about what's "slutty" and whats "okay", i think it's should be to both part. but if they go and say a girl is a hoe if she had sex with a guy, and a guy had sex with a girl, is okay, will really make me mad.

and now i will ask you, - what do you think about it? if you are a man, and wanted to get married should your wife be a virgin? and if she isn't will you still married her? and if you are a girl, what do you think about all this? don't you care if your man had sleept with 25 girls?..

sorry if this thread had been up before.

[jjbb]

I do care if my future husband has been with alot of girla. my problem is I am not sure when he is with me if he thinks about his ex or really he is with me.

[gg666]

that's what i always think......and somehow worry about...can someone give some advice...this issue of thinking about ex is really shaking my nerves..

[mahsaak]

hey guy, dont make ur self that much silly. most of the girl and boys in now a days do that, but still we are facing problem some how, i wana ask from man why u care about u wife to be virjin, although u did it befor mariage, many time with out any freaking care!!!???
i dont wana say that it doesnt matter that they are slutt, exactly its a big problem , but those has done that becouse of previus falling in loves ,i think doesnt matter in condition that they dont do it again when get maried .
the most problem ,case in those use to do that just like a habit in young age, obviously can be a good husband /wife ,becouse one day he/she will abuse the time and come back to what ever he /she use to be.
for me personalydoesnt matter if my future husband had any girl friend or having any love with any body in case that wasnt his habit,and it was just becouse of relation ship. and promising naver do it again while is mine,
(although i dont like marry ever). what do u think???

[jjbb]

promis and habit....
habit is going to ba a big problem and iranian men are good at repeating it.
promis , that is a false staement and can be broken and if you believe him/her then you are a not a victim you are (sorry to say that) stupid.

[mahsaak]

i do belive in my word, thats way i think the promissess in marriage will be fine, thats not stupidy , thats just forgiveness, i will not marry the one who is his habit to do that , as i written : those who had gf and relation btw just becouse of love btw, thats not a habit, just it is a relationship

[jjbb]

I agree with the relashioship between two couples.
I did not mean stupid the way you think somthing softer saying i mean somebody trying to ignor it if the habit gets repeated i hope you understood what i meant
I think I can not forgive the person that easily. I guess I do not know what would be my feeling about forgiveness until I face it.

[mahsaak]

dont say like that , cose in that xcase the holly has to come to u , and now a day u cant find any body totaly clean( i am telling about boys) . so its better dont ask any think about his past, if u know him by just make some test on and try him, those people who are doing in habidity are very sick inforont of any woman, i did once for my friend , and she clearified that the guy was not suitable for her. but i hop the best partner for u.

[maloosak]

i dont realy care if the guy had a relationship, az long as i know that he was never in love before he met me, i mean there is noooooooo way on earth you can find any guy who hadnt had any relationship 'till the age of marrage

[maloosak]

i mean if i know that he was in love with someone els, then i would allways feel her shadow in my life, and its gonna be awful

[Vandfald]

Hey everyone, i'm back..
i don't have a comp :/ so i can't be online so much..
but thanks for the answers everyyyone, i'll try to catch up later..

[huebg]

man vaghe'an az aghayooni ke har kesaafat kariye baa hame mikonan ba'd migan ma faghat virgin mikhaym halam beham mikhore. kheyli kheyli mote'assefam ke hamchin jaame'eyi hast ke in joor chizhaa ro tahhamol kone, chon filvaaghe in ettefaagh ziyad miyofte. mote'assefaane ham 'baa deen, bi deen' ham nadare, too islam ba'ziya ideeye "mut'ah" ro warp mikonan ke be kesaafat kariyaashoon bokhore (ke dar asl aslan injooriyaa nist ke alaan dorostesh kardan). ba'd dokhtare ye ravaabete koochiki dashte bashe, oonaa migan nakheyr dastkhordast. bichare dokhtare ham miyofte ye gooshe. dar hamoon hal marde dare eshghesho mikone

baleh agar yeki virgin bashe hagh dare bekhaat oon yeki ham bashe. vali agar na, maskharast.

dar zemn maloosak jaan, az "noooooo way on earth"et motma'in nabash

[behdad223]

man vaghan sar darnmiyaram

man vaghe'an az aghayooni ke har kesaafat kariye baa hame mikonan ba'd migan ma faghat virgin mikhaym halam beham mikhore. kheyli kheyli mote'assefam ke hamchin jaame'eyi hast ke in joor chizhaa ro tahhamol kone, chon filvaaghe in ettefaagh ziyad miyofte. mote'assefaane ham 'baa deen, bi deen' ham nadare, too islam ba'ziya ideeye "mut'ah" ro warp mikonan ke be kesaafat kariyaashoon bokhore (ke dar asl aslan injooriyaa nist ke alaan dorostesh kardan). ba'd dokhtare ye ravaabete koochiki dashte bashe, oonaa migan nakheyr dastkhordast. bichare dokhtare ham miyofte ye gooshe. dar hamoon hal marde dare eshghesho mikone

baleh agar yeki virgin bashe hagh dare bekhaat oon yeki ham bashe. vali agar na, maskharast.

dar zemn maloosak jaan, az "noooooo way on earth"et motma'in nabash

shoma chera enghadr basteh beghazya neghah mikonid?

[mahsaak]

huebg jan an ba maloosak ovafegha age intori nabashe taraf mard nist ke. age ha beghole to unkaro nakrde bashe oshkele ravani dare bande khoda ya 0kiloometre javate

[gg666]

only thing that i can say is that these things really drive me crazy....my mind is totally spoiled with these if clauses....what if what if what if what if.....and i never reach an answer