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08-07-2005, 03:05 PM

Laughter as Therapy

It is a frequency that is very high raising someone's frequency to help with the healing process on the emotional level where illnesses are created. Laughter therapy boosts the interferon levels of the immune system which helps the system's ability to fight illness.

Between Laughter and Loneliness
Somewhere between the loneliness and the isolation many of us feel in the human experience - we must seek laughter - to brighten our way. We all feel alone at times - as we are alone until we merge back with our polar opposite. Emotions are frequencies - loneliness being a lower frequency. Laughter raises frequency and moves you to a higher harmonic. Being alone is a time of growth. Use it wisely and try to laugh.

Being alone does not mean you have to be lonely. The problem is that many consider the terms interchangeable. There is a difference. While aloneness denotes simply being by ones self, loneliness implies a longing for companionship, wish not to be alone.

Loneliness is nondiscriminatory. It can attack anyone anywhere, for what may seem to be no apparent reason. The feeling of being alone with no end in sight, while partially, if not totally, immobilized by those beliefs, is what makes the lonely person a prisoner.

People are social by nature. It is important to have meaningful physical and emotional interactions with others. Depending upon whom one asks, loneliness is a feeling or a condition. It is hard to describe and intricate to defeat. What does loneliness mean to you?

Irrational, infeasible, interpretations of our current life situation greatly contribute to the lessening of our self confidence. The first step is to identify negative self-thoughts about ones life situation. Then look for contrary evidence to those irrational thoughts.

Some people are better at alleviating their emotional seclusion than are others. They can hide inner feelings of a monadic existence, while the rest of the world seems to cruise carefree. For the emotionally strong mental seclusion is a fleeting feeling. It comes and goes, visiting them once in a while at best. And when despair arrives they handle it as temporary.

For others who are less fortunate, loneliness absorbs their entire being; as does a constrictor snake suffocating its victims. The less willful see this as a curse. A shadow that follows them all the time. With each human contact they are reminded in compound fashion with an enhanced sense of their own isolation. People with low self-esteem often believe that others would not be interested in knowing them, and that their overall weakness justified.

Older adults are often at risk for friendlessness because of disruptions to
Loneliness is a feeling of emptiness, hollowness, inside an individual. Resulting from smothered, festering, feelings of isolation that produced the belief of being separated, cut-off, from the rest of the living, happy, world.

Loneliness is a painful emotional feeling of being disconnected, cut off, or isolated from the rest of our world. It is a feeling that something is missing from our lives. Almost everyone experiences loneliness at some time in his or her life. There are many factors that contribute to feeling lonely.

When we are separated from familiar people and places, we often feel disconnected, like we don't belong. Usually, as we meet people and become familiar with places, the feeling subsides fairly quickly.

Some people feel disconnected, disenfranchised, because they don't know how to approach or contact others socially. Many fear being rejected so they don't attempt to make friends or develop relationships. How can people interpret feeling alone? And what will be their commitment to extricate themselves from the mire?

Solutions:

To stop feeling lonely, the person must recognize those depressed feelings then accept it. For most, admitting such is very difficult, but that should not be seen as a sign of their personal weakness to feel so. Expressing ones feelings in a peaceful, respectful, way can only be a good thing. Do it and feel the tension ease.

Challenge the reality of your pessimistic or negative thought. Be a bit selfish. Do some things you want to do for yourself. This is a good time to focus on you and learn more about yourself. Develop personal interests that you may not have had time for before.

Take an aggressive approach to your own loneliness problem. Sometimes loneliness can make you feel as though you don't want to do anything. This is the time when you should pull out all the stops. A change of activity can turn your mind. Even if you have only a slight interest in something that is non-violently helpful, act on it.

Learning to deal with loneliness is an art. It may be one of the biggest challenges any of us faces in life. Have positive expectations.

Once your identify what it is that makes you feel lonely, you are in a better position to deal with it. Take note of your loneliness when you sense it and try to discover what prompted the feeling. When you can pinpoint the cause of your loneliness, it will not be hard to find ways to handle it. Often the simplest act can alleviate the problem.

Manage it. Much of the distress and fear of loneliness will diminish when you can identify what causes the problem and then attempt to modify the causes and conditions that produce your lonely feelings. When you feel lonely for companionship, invite a friend to dinner. Even the suggestion of dining out will brighten your spirits. The thrust is to become more active in many more aspects of life. Get your cushiony rump moving and do something. Does the author suggest being active? We wouldn't want that.

Transform loneliness into something of value to you. Turn it to your advantage by learning to handle it on your own. Know yourself better. Seize the opportunity for personal growth rather than succumb to frightful periods of suffering. The way you choose to look at something has a direct bearing upon how you will be affected by it.

The battle over loneliness is a battle you may not always win. You may feel crazy, desperate and afraid. However, you can learn to live with loneliness, to overcome it and survive. Be aware that the loneliness problem is really only open to a personal and private solution. There is not anyone who can solve it for you. Other people can help, but they cannot do the detailed work involved in breaking through the loneliness barrier.

Another way might be to write in a diary about days past. There are countless eight hundred hotlines that invite those who are trouble to call in to discuss problems with people who have endured similar histories.

Drawing, painting a picture, making up a song, or doing anything else that lets us begin to express the feelings we have inside us are all initial steps one can take to get on the road to feeling better, improved on life?s outlook. We might be able to begin to see where these feelings are coming from and make constructive changes.

Parents, family, or friends, are useful outlets we so easily ignore. Telephone, write, e-mail or visit them. Talking to an understanding friend can often help change a persons emotional forecast. If we don't have an understanding friend, talking with a pastor, teacher or counselor might be a place to start.

A great way to spend time with people and feel good about your contribution to the world is by volunteering. If your anxiety disorder is keeping you from volunteering in a traditional way, use your imagination. Going into an online chat room and talking to someone else who is lonely is a start in the aggressive direction. If you are ready to volunteer outside your home, look to places that will be anxiety-friendly are churches, hospitals, and nursing homes.

Getting involved in some sort of activity or club can take our minds off of feeling lonely as we get involved in some sort of enjoyable activity; something one can tolerate doing for a precious few minutes. If you're not sure what your interests are, just start participating until you find what you love. What would it take for a little attitude adjustment?

It can provide some structure in our lives so that we have things to look forward to. It can remind us of how good we might have felt in the past doing similar things. Get involved in something because we know we've enjoyed it in the past or because we think it might be fun. That way were more likely to find ourselves enjoying what were doing and being with people who genuinely enjoy the same things. We may also find out that some people like us for the way we already are. An added bonus is that we might also begin to realize that we could choose to engage in some of those activities or interests entirely on our own without feeling afraid.

Everyone feels lonely from time to time. Using some of the suggestions above will most likely help cope better with those feelings. A certain amount of loneliness in a person's life is to be expected. Don't try to escape it by running away from it. Do not wallow in panic.

Exercise and physical activity will increase your energy and help you to feel better about yourself. Work on developing relationships with others; through improved listening and communication skills. Seek opinions. Maintain a good attitude.

Present a positive self-image. Let others know from your body language that you welcome their communication with you.

If you find that you are having difficulty dealing with overwhelming feelings on your own, seek out the help of a mental health professional in your community.