Iranian Love

[purrsian_cat]

Just a query...
I'm half Iranian (dads side) and half English (mums side). My dad's family in Iran are somewhat religious, and although he has lived in UK for about 20years he still has he's 'Iranian ways'. Being his only daughter (aged 17) i think he is too over protected over me. He never talks about guys or boyfriends or anything of that topic, and he probably thinks i am not interested in anything like that because i never talk to him (or my mum) about it. He's not strict with me or anything but he insists on knowing where i'm going, who i'm with and what i'm doing etc.. I think he thinks he is going to find me a 'good' Iranian guy like when i'm 20+ or something - which i DONT want. I want to find someone who i believe is right for me, someone who i will have things in common with and someone i will be comfortable and happy with... But my dad would never let me date anyone so i do it without him knowing, which is pretty pointless because i'm not going to get anywhere like this.
Almost all Iranians i know here, in the UK, have as much freedom as regular English youngsters and date guys freely, wear tons of make-up and are out clubbing wearing short short s***ts.

I just wondered how other Iranians on this site find Love... and how families reject/support it..??

[Parinaz_M]

well persian cat joon you have to give yourself a little more time. Iranian dads are a little stricked, but it is for your own good. i think you should talk to him, talking solves everything. tell him what you think, and what you want in life, and see what he thinks.

[elly khoshkele]

purrisian_cat junam u see i have been living in singapore almost al my life... both my parents are iranian and i wear a scarf... i have to say.. it does get though at times but i get over it!!! and i have to say.. my daddy is way too over protective over me.... but my mum.. she is my bestest fren ever..... so i guess i can confide in hr... and its like even though i have much fredom here.. i still ahve to report where wat time and who... my curfews are really early.. even though singapore is like on of the safest place in the world.... and also.... i m almost nevr allowed to go for sleep overs... unless they are iranians and my parents must know them well... adn there has to be no older or same aged brother in the house... so yeah... i have much more restrictions... my parents would never force me to marry anyone... but they wouldnt like it if the guy was not up to their standards.... so yeah....

jus a qn... do u want to marry an iranaian or an english???

[shazz]

Hmmm...Dont Be Shy Go to yer Dad when he is in a Good mood and talk to him...or maybe ask your mom for Help.., i am sure it works.
GooD LuCK

[purrsian_cat]

[Pesar_IroonI]

we had 1 girl in my entire family...and wasnt my sister. So im not sure how they would be treated in such areas.
But as far as i know almost all iranian teens around me in the US are as free as anyother person.
i guess in your case it is just about timeing and that stuff. the best thing i think is to talk to you dad and let him know what ur real feelings are.

now go on and find urself a prince charming dear.

omidvaram ke komaki karde boodam!

[jjbb]

my father wanted me to experience falling in-love to a nice iranian guy. it came true, he met the guy and fell in-love with him( by testing him)too. then one day he told me that what i am experiencing is love toward him.but he would not let me do sleep over. i found iranian dad are overprotective of their children especially their daughter.

[purrsian_cat]

JJBB... i think maybe my dad is planning on doing the same thing. But i wanna find my own cute iranian guy,, i probably will. My dad won't stop me i don't think, He just wants me to be happy.

[mahsaak]

dear darlin
u have to talk to u father,
u have to show him that every thing is diffrent now on
also iranian father inside iran has chenged alot.
keep on ur feet
tell him that he has to care about u but not over protecting.
tell him that u are suffring from ur situation. and u need more freedom
i hop u solve ur problem
i have done this when i was 15 , and know that i was in iran on that age
now i am totaly free. just for my own, and my father realy love me tooo

[purrsian_cat]

i'm not reali that bothered about it. Hes not strict or anything, and i have loads of freedom. I just wanted to see how other iranians dealt with this kinda situation.

[elly khoshkele]

yeah i understand u purrsian cat junam... i mean i am not bothered at all about my situation.. in fact i love it that my dad is over protective... call me stupid.. but i love it and i feel loved.... and i chose to wear the scarf myself... no force at all from my daddy.... i mean my dad was a young boy once as well... he also had feelings that all boys and gals (teens) have.... so he knows guys better... he jus doesnt want me to get hurt... but i ahve to say... one thing that he will NOT tolerate is losing virginity.. he would probably die... (degh mikone babam) situations have changed now.. i am not in iran... and even if i was... things have still changed.... i mean if i lose my virginity.. my dad would have killed me if it was olden times.. but now... he will probably get a heart attack or sumthing!!!

but den... my dad says he doesnt mind me finding my own guy... exceppt... he says that they should approve of him as well... like he should not drink.. not smoke... not have a social status WAYYY lower than me... stuff like that... and to tell u the truth.. these are reasonable expectations.... so yeah.... be optimistic purrsia cat junam.... trust me... they are not that tough.. jus seems so...

i have jus only realised it!! and i am 17!! so yeah.. till now.. i tot my dad was being mean and tough and over protective... now...i simply feel loved!!!!!!!!!!

[purrsian_cat]

akheyy elle khoshgele that was reali sweet
You're 17 also? i thought you were older hehe
** boooos**

[Pesar_IroonI]

manam 17 hastam ...vali pesar..(obviously)

it's much different when ur a guy..they basically throw u out to meet someone loll...

[purrsian_cat]

lol pesar irooni... come and meet me

[Pesar_IroonI]

be rooye cheshm !