Crushed by an American

[PERSIANBOLIC]

Okay lets try this…lol

My name is Kevin (Kaveh) and I am looking for a Persian girl friend…I would have never imagined coming to a board to find someone but I really don’t know too many Persian girls out in AZ. I have been in a relationship with an American girl for about 12 years…she left her family and came out here to be with me..she begedme to put that ring on her finger and I finally did on valentines day and from there everything went to hell. She now realized after 12 years that our cultures are different and b/c she dosent speek Persian she fells as if my parents don’t like her, which is not really tru…anyways I told my self that I am done with American girls, no more for me…I think they are bemarafat and have no family values…well most of them..and after 12 years I thought I knew of the good ones but I was dead wrong…lol

Long story short I would love to meet some Persian friends…no I am not ugly..no I am not retarded…no I am no damaged goods…no I am not poor…lol you could see my pic if you really want, I just have been away from the Persian loop, I tried going to some concerts but man all the people are old..lol
Any advice or hang out…this is really for the Arizonian Persians..

[shawnk50]

i think the best way 4 u to find an ideal persian girl is 2 go back to iran !! u have more choices and most of the girls are less americanized!! i am not saying all the girls in iran r good!! we have some bit==!! but i had an iranian gf... she was really impatient and demanding financially!! in US the control is in THE HANDs OF LADIES!!!
good luck

[golgol85]

shawn, dont think for one second the persian girls in iran are any better. girls in general are demading, and its your guys fault for being blind to our faults when you are in love. the honeymoon ends and you realize she isnt what you thought she was. persian girls in iran are just as demanding as ones here. if both of you are guys who go for the girls with hot looks and no character, then dont expect the girls not to be gold diggers.

to Kaveh: im sorry to hear about your heartache, but as i was telling one of my other friends on here, its time to move on for you. As much as i am an openminded person, when it comes to marriage it is hard to go for someone who is not of the same ethnicty because as much as both sides try, there will always be cultural differences. I guess its better things got broken off rather than later on down the road when you two had kids. if you are going to look for a girl, let me tell you dont go to clubs or concerts looking for them. maybe some of the guys on here who are in arizona could help you out. good luck! :D

[shawnk50]

well, i guess the best way is to follow your heart... for me, "look" is not the priority when it comes to ladies...its her personality... and of course, she should not be over weight :rolleyes: !! there is a one important rule when it comes to persian girls: "DO NOT PAY TOOO MUCH ATTENTION TO THEM"!! don't try to get them to like u by doing whatever they say.... i have used this technique and it was very successful!!:smt033

[golgol85]

so pretty much be a guy who doesnt listen and pretends he is all cool because he is a "man" since he does as he pleases? i dont think that is a good approach. as a girl, i dont like it when a guy is too soft and listens to everything and has no insight and opinions on his own, but a guy who thinks he is always right and never listens is out. there needs to be a balance, a middle ground where the guy and girl both make decisions together, agree to compromise when they disagree, na inke laj konan bache bazi dararan. being overweight or not is a part of looks, hehe;) most persian guys do infact care how the girl looks, dresses, grooms herself, so i find it a HUGE lie when guys, especially persian ones say they dont care about looks or its not priority because i have seen that the girls that get the most attention are the ones exposing the most cleavage, wearing the most expensive clothes, the most done up, the ones with the nose jobs and the ones that are cocky. guys are the ones who act cocky, then girls think they can use the same technique to get guys, except for when girls do it guys label them as loos.

[Nutcase]

when it comes to the outside look of a person, most of us have developed this hollywood mentality which makes us quite shallow, its sad 2 see that going under the knife 4 persian ladies is the norm of the day right now, and the guys at the same time think that having a bmw or benz will send the chicks their way. in that case they deserve eachother since everything seems to be running on the surface. what i really don't understand is why we have to generalize and stereotype everything when it comes to this issue.
judge someone individually, don't throw them in a pot, like all the girls from iran and the persian ladies living abroad are so different from eachother, folks wake up, there is a mix of cultures and different environments that shape us a certain way. just because u have been hurt by an iranian, u abandon them 4 life, or the other way around. u say to hell with iroonies, and hang around with farangis only.
i personally have surprised myself many times thinking a certain way, but changing my mind because its not all just a cut and clear answer to it, or a one way street. there is good and bad in every culture and people. for instance, the reason i don't speak a lot of farsi, is cause i suck at it, does that make me a vatanforush or a gharbzade? doesn';t that sound kinda closed-minded, if i would be called that. we all have a certain upbrining, let's just be open to eachother, i think also there is this pride about our identity, this persian pride i keep reading about, i bet half of you dunno what it stems out of, yes be proud of our roots and our history, but is it still cool to be proud of the political system in iran?
sorry i am just going on and not keeping quite with the subject at hand, but in a way its all inter-related. being open-minded and not generalizing everything is the key to make ourselves better and improve our life in every sense, in good times and in bad, if your relationship fails, don't immediately blame the other, cause that becomes a weakness within you, as they say, what doesn't kill you, makes you only stronger, we can only improve for the better at that point. good luck to all in your quest of happiness with a significant other :)

[elly khoshkele]

baba bikhiyal... eki short form bege in ja che khabare!! man navafahmam!! ki hosele dare hameye ino bekhune akhe??? vali man migam.. iran behtare... doroste.. dokhtaraye iran behtar az usa nistan.. va kolan dokhtara demanding bidan... vali vagheyatesh ine ke... dokhtar iruni tu iran bishtare (no shit..lol) va be hamin dalil.. u wil have more choice.. and i am sure u might be able to find ONE person who doesnt only think about money... i mean seriously...

arman.. to ke AZ bidi.. vali to nemituni eh dokhtare khub vaseye in bad bakhte falak zade peyda koni... vali reza ke mitune!!!!! :D na??? (alan elnaz miyad saram!! lol) vali khodayish.... eki in bichararo bebare birun (arman u are NOT included! lol... ) eh kesiro vasash dasto pa konid baba!!! migam arman.... nadia chetore????? loooooooooooooooll khodayish be ham miyana!! na?? nadi KAMELAN mitune eh gfe AALI bashe!! na???

[abadani69]

ah ah ah,man cheghadr az in dokhtar bache,nadia badam miyad. persianbolic,biya khodam migam bacheha barat yekio peida konan, az ma ke dige in kara gozashte, gozasht on moghei ke Connection guy sedamoon mikardan :D

[elly khoshkele]

ghalat miakrdan connection guy sedat konan!! to ke felan buttologisty jigary.. connection guy ham budy?? are dige.. hala ke dige az shoma gozashte.... begu eki dige karsho rah bendaze!!! :p

[shawnk50]

just one thing....

don't try to think about it.... it really does not worth it....
life is too short to think about why she said that, or did this or did that...
i have been here in US for 7 years. i have had several gfs.... vietnamies, philipinos, mexican....and etc...there were all fine...but i was looking for a nice persian girl...someone from my own culture and ethnicity..!!! (but its really hard to find that especial lady..)
although i recently met an iranian girl who is 4 years younger than me...
i though she might be it...she was my friend's friend....but unfortunately it seems like "she is not emotionaly ready"///.... lol

[jjbb]

It is very important for most Iranian to marry Irani. But it is very hard to find one as there are not very many irani in each city. The choice is very limited.

I also do not agree with people who go to iran to bring a spouse in a few weeks. Mostly it is not a successful marriage.....

[shawnk50]

just be yourself.....
u should not even think that "u must marry or have a iranian gf"...
there are many other cultures that can actually work better...!!!
i think spanish girls can be a good substitute!

[zubin]

persian girls are the best! though you have to understand them first...

[zubin]

oh yeah and I recommend that you watch the Iranian movies from tapesh, the newest ones imported from Iran. It'll show you what characteristics Iranian girls like and generally how they are!

[golgol85]

joubin you are winning yourself brownie points by saying persian girls are the best:D I think it is nice to be able to marry someone who understands your cultural background, but if you find someone who is willing to learn about your culture and may become imeresed in it even more than an iranian, then by all means you can go for someone who is not iranian. the bottom line is this: go for someone who understands YOU, who wants to be around YOU, who respects YOU, and who wants to learn with you. if you find someone like that, then it doesnt matter where the person is from.

[Parinaz_M]

persian girls are the best! though you have to understand them first...


I like the way you think!!!

[zubin]

deedi Persianbolic, take my advice. I think golgol makes some fine points, but as sad as it sounds, and I may be biased when I'm saying this, it is hard for non-Iranians/non-Persians to appreciate Iranians/Persians these days.

[zubin]

also I hope I'm not making things complex and controversial to say that maybe its that North American Caucasians are the least capable of understanding Iranian guys, that is, with the least exceptions in comparison to other cultures (though their males may understand Iranian girls). Now that I think of it, I've seen cases from almost any culture but North American understand Iranian guys much easier than North American Caucasians. But if I had to choose (and here come to brownie points again, this time with bonuses), I would with no doubt choose Iranian girls and even tell people from other cultures to marry Iranian girls.