HOW TO MAKE HER CHOOSE YOU

[Atef_Dubai]

[Atef_Dubai]

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear Afshin,

Just wanted to drop you a quick note. I am a 34 year old and divorced using your E-book to learn how to get back into the game. Since I was raised by my parents to be a nice guy, submissive, wussy, it has been a challenge to overcome these self- destructive traits---but I am gaining ground every day. Also, I don't have any natural ability for C&F. For the most part I am quiet and reserved---- so I have needed to re-train myself in that area also. You have given me a good start by explaining attraction and what women want.

I want to stress the importance of "practice". It's the only way to quickly improve your inner and outer game. What has helped me is practicing on an old girlfriend. I am sure many of your students like me have a woman that just won't let you go from an old relationship. So, I have not completely ended it for sex and companionship and she keeps me around for sex and emotional support.

Anyway---to my amazing weekend: Saturday, I went out with the old girlfriend and busted on her and challenged her on many issues all night. My old self would have shut up and zoned out---not this time. I didn't put up with any of her nonsense. It ended at my place and we had an amazing double session. She is now hooked more than ever even though she knows I am seeing other people. She can't help herself. I have triggered the attraction mechanism and more importantly I know what I did to accomplish that.
Sunday I spent the day with a cute girl who had responded to my internet ad. We had only been out once before. I played the game---didn't act overly sexually interested, just enough....I used the C&F when I could, but basically kept cool. She offered to pay our lunch/cocktail bill. My old self would have foolishly denied her offer---thinking I was the man, thinking I was being chivalrous (how foolish . This time I accepted without hesitation. Once back at my place I used the start and stop technique. I would get her hot, then I would back off. She would stop my hand from reaching too far so I decided that I wasn't going to push it and that tonight might not be "the night" with her so I was very relaxed. At 10:00 she was getting ready to leave. We started making out while saying goodbye----next thing I know , we were in the bedroom. It was amazing. The fun lasted all night. Today I am tired with a smile on my face. I know it worked out because I put the proper groundwork in place. By turning my sexual advances on and then off-----it really got to her. Acting as if I was evaluating her...the whole thing. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction, I am starting to get it!!! Literally

C
Fort Lauderdale, Fl

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, you really are starting to GET IT.

And you are RIGHT ON.

This stuff takes practice and real-world experience using it before you really “get it”.

Too many guys are just too damned overly- analytical, and want to know how to do EVERYTHING before they do ANYTHING.

I used to be this way... and it cost me a lot of time and energy.

It's so amazing to actually get out there and SEE results right in front of your eyes. It gets you excited and willing to try more things... and it prepares you for the future... for situations that are REALLY important.

Get out there and use this stuff.

Start NOW.

***QUESTION***

Afshin, What does it mean when a woman says she wants to “work on herself” before she can have a relationship?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The literal translation for this is:

“I DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU, BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU WITHOUT HURTING YOUR LITTLE WUSSY BOY GIRLIE FEELINGS.”

Any of the following:

“I need time alone right now.”

��I need to find me first.”

“Let's just be friends for now.”

...etc. mean:

“I DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION.”

That's the bottom line.

The problem is YOU, not HER.

Don't be surprised if this same girl either IS or STARTS dating another guy seriously soon.

If you're hearing this kind of thing often, then you need to take it as a sign that you're not triggering ATTRACTION inside of women... and, more importantly, that you need to LEARN HOW.

I recommend my Advanced Dating Techniques Program.

This will help eliminate these types of comments from women once and for all.

Here, let me brag for a minute...

I'm sitting here thinking about it, and I can't remember a woman saying one of these things to me in YEARS.
***QUESTION***

Mr. Afshin!

You are the man! I have been getting your emails for about 8 months now I belive and have read your book! Just yesterday I was in the store looking at CD's and I noticed these two beautiful girls walking around and they would constantly look over towards me. As I wandered around the store more I noticed that they seemed to always show up wherever I was. So I stopped them and asked the girl that I was more attracted to "Excuse me but i'm going to have to ask you to stop stalking me." She looked at her friend like 'What is this boy talking about' and then she asked me for my name. I immediately answered "Do you really think i'm just going to give my name out to a stalker?" once again she looked like she couldn't believe I was talking to her this way. We talked about five more minutes and then I told her I had to go. She asked me if I wanted her number so we could continue the conversation. I pretended to think about it and then told her "I'm sorry but I'm just going to be way too busy to find time to call you. So If you promise to stop stalking me i'll give you my number and you can try and catch me when I have a few minutes of free time to talk." She eagerly took my number and when I got home about an hour later she had already left a message on my machine to see if I could go out with her this weekend!

Afshin I was so happy because I was curious too see if I reversed the three minute phone number to give away my number instead of getting hers would work and it did! Anyway on to my question. As I stated this girl was with a friend at the store who was also very attractive and was there the whole time I was hitting up her friend. Is there anyway in these situations where you can get both girls numbers?

AF- AK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice “reverse stalker” move.

I say things like this to women all the time, and they generally love it.

To answer your question, YES, there's an easy way to get both girls' phone numbers.

ASK.

Then call and ask them BOTH to come join you for a cup of tea.

Kill two birds with one stone.

Then, over tea you can decide which one you like more.

I've had friends who have been in similar situations report back that sometimes both women will like you... and EACH OTHER as well.

I mean, what do you have to lose? 2 minutes of getting a phone number?

Look, your question was based in fear.

Fear that you'd offend one or both of the women, and then lose everything.

The fact is that you never HAD anything.

A phone number is easy to get. If you feel like asking both women for their numbers, do it. If you feel like asking them both to join you for tea, do it.

You get to make the rules.

[Atef_Dubai]

***SUCCESS STORY***

Afshin,

I received your DVD series about a month ago and have watched it in its entirety a few times. I've noticed a strange circumstance since then, similar to what Napoleon Hill says about how when you choose a definite major purpose in life, ways and means of attaining that purpose seem to magically appear to you. When I've been in situations where I wasn't actually interacting with a woman and laying on the C&F, they've still been acting attracted to me despite the fact that I consciously did NOTHING in these situations. For example:

- A bar/restaurant I hit about once a week has a very hot waitress staff, and one in particular is a Pam Anderson clone who's always being stared at and complimented by all the wussy guys. She's been working at least a dozen times that I've been in there but has never acted like she even noticed me until the last time (since I've watched the DVDs) and she kept looking at me, over and over again, despite the fact that I did NOTHING different. Finally I gave her the "wrinkled brow" suspicious look and she got all self- conscious, said "what?" and I came right back with "if you're gonna be that forward and flirty with me you could've at least done your hair up a little better" and then it was ON!

- I met some friends for happy hour and a very hot chick was sitting at a table holding some guy's hand. Every other guy in the place was staring at her and she was so hot that I even overheard some of the waitresses trashing her. The thing is, I had been watching the DVDs that same day and came walking in with a particularly cocky swagger and the wrinkled brow and she stared me down the whole way in. Then she would not stop looking over at me while she was holding this dude's hand, he was obviously a Wussy since he saw what was going on and did nothing (I guess he's the guy she uses for free dinners while she's banging the real men). At one point she even took the long way to the bathroom to walk by me and flirt but with the Wussy watching there was no op to get the info... hopefully I run into her again.

It's obvious that just watching the DVD series gives one an aura of confidence, since I did nothing in these situations but show up. Kinda like reading Comedy Writing Secrets then suddenly being funnier without actually thinking about it and trying. Simply watching and learning this material opens doors for you without trying!

FR
Phoenix
>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, you're tapping into the power of the mind here.

One of the BIG benefits of learning all of the material that I teach in my programs is the changes that naturally occur inside your mind.

Once you see things differently, you begin to BEHAVE differently as well. And it will happen automatically.

Now, I don't mean to sound new-agey here, but this is the reality of the situation.

Women can pick up on subtle body language that most men don't even know EXISTS.

When you start “mentally rehearsing” some of the things you learn from my programs, you will automatically act differently when you're in future situations with women.

Great job, and keep it up.

And make sure you send in some future Success Stories, as I'm sure you're going to have many.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey AFshinnn,

Blah blah blah, I shamelessly compliment you, you feel like a deity... there we're done.

Your book would be worth it's weight in gold, even if it were made of lead! I stumbled onto your site by accident. A month before, I was Let's Just BeFriended for being "too nice", and this was with an UGLY thing too! eh... I was desperate. I actually laughed at those "losers" for getting slapped on the arm and called a**hole, and later,I thought the chicks were idiots for dating them!! I'm better now. After reading your book it was like the heavens were parted and g*d HIMself bitch slapped the wuss right out of me! Thanks.

Not only am I getting slapped, bitten, chewed on, and fought over, I am LOVING it too! Just the other day I was in a bookstore, and an old friend (read "hot chick") of mine came in, I thought, 'hey I am here just being my new self, lets try something', so I walked over to her, said hi, and then said "I didn't expect to see a beautiful young woman here" she said "aww that's so sweet" (read "you wussy") but then I did something that has been working really well for me, I busted on her. I said "maybe I still will" Slap on arm, AND big smile. She was wearing this rather large s***t with ruffles, so I said "wow... I didn't know the parachute look was still in" while obviously staring at it. Another slap on arm, this time laughing. Later she asked if I got my hair cut (I hadn't) she said it "whatever it is, its really attractive." There is this coffee shop in the store, so we had "stimulating conversation" a little while went by, and she asked me to go to her car with her, so she could "show me a new piece of art." well needless to say, we are still "appreciating art" together, and its been two months!

So the question is... Will complimenting the ladies then busting on whatever I just complimented work the same as if not complimenting at all?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, one of my favorites...

Giving a woman a compliment, then putting a backhanded twist on it.

“Wow, your shoes are cute. Did you buy them new?”

“Your hair is pretty. Did your mom do it for you?”

“Nice car. If you're homeless.”

Pick up any modern men's magazine and you'll get a bunch of good ideas for this type of thing.

Cocky & Funny can be very powerful once you learn how to use it.

Great example, and thank you.

[Parinaz_M]

shoma pesara ham ke ba en mokh zani khodetono khafe kardid

[jjbb]

oh che ghad post zadeh
nazemon ro bekeshid, mesle queen ba hamon raftar konid, badesh dige lazem nist in hameh kar haro konid khodemon ashegheton mishim
in bala sare man omadeh...
az bas az in kara kard ke.......

[Atef_Dubai]

pari jan in yechiz biid ke be dardemon vakhore shoma dokhtara nemidoni hala yeroozi be moghash beheton migim

[Sepideh_UK]

lool sad or wat?

[Atef_Dubai]

bemanad

[jjbb]

pas javabesho bedeh....

[Atef_Dubai]

bezar bekhonan

[Parinaz_M]

kheyli sad

[Sepideh_UK]

absolutely!!!