All Iranian Girls Are Virgin ?

[Rasputin]

Terminology

Recently, and mostly within the United States, the use of the term safer sex rather than safe sex has gained greater use by health workers, with the realization the grounds that risk of transmission of sexually-transmitted infections in various sexual activities is a continuum rather than a simple dichotomy between risky and safe. However, in most other countries, including the United Kingdom and Australia, the term safe sex is still mainly used by sex educators. Because these terms are virtually synonymous with each other, they will be used interchangeably throughout this article.

[Rasputin]

Focus on AIDS

Much attention has focused on controlling HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, through the use of condoms, but each STI presents a different predicament. However, sex educators recommend that some form of barrier protection as a harm reduction measure should be used for all sexual activities which might potentially result in the exchange of body fluids.

[Rasputin]

Abstinence

One way to avoid the risks associated with sexual contact is to abstain from sex entirely, which virtually elimates the chances of contracting STDs. This approach is advocated by the members of many religions who oppose sex outside marriage, and is sometimes encouraged by the promotion of virginity pledges and sexual abstinence education for teenagers.

Masturbation

Solitary masturbation (including "phone sex" and "cybersex") is a safe form of sexual activity, so long as contact is not made with discharged bodily fluids.

Approaching sex with caution

Acknowleding that it is usually impossible to have entirely risk-free sex with another person, proponents of safer sex recommend that some of the following methods be used to minimize the risks of STI transmission and unwanted pregnancy.

Monogamy or polyfidelity, practiced faithfully, is very safe (as far as STIs are concerned) when all partners are non-infected. However, many monogamous people have been infected with sexually-transmitted diseases by partners who are sexually unfaithful, have used injection drugs, or were infected by previous sexual partners; the same risks apply to polyfidelitous people, who face slightly higher risks depending on how many people are in the polyfidelitous group.
Communication with one's sexual partner(s) makes for greater safety. Before initiating sexual activities, partners may discuss what activities they will and will not engage in, and what precautions they will take. This can reduce the chance of risky decisions being made "in the heat of passion".
For those who are not monogamous, reducing the number of one's sexual partners, particularly anonymous sexual partners, may also reduce one's potential exposure to STIs. Similarly, one may restrict one's sexual contact to a community of trusted individuals - this is the approach taken by some pornographic actors and other non-monogamous people.
Fluid bonding is a technique used by some polyamorous people to limit their exposure to STIs: partners agree to always use protection when having sex with anyone besides their fluid-bonded partner(s).
Refraining from the use of recreational drugs, including alcohol, before and during sexual activity can protect against associated risks such as lowered inhibitions, impaired judgement, and loss of consciousness.

[Rasputin]

Preventing fluid exchange

Various devices are used to avoid contact with blood, vaginal fluid, and semen during sexual activity:

Condoms cover the penis during sexual activity. They are most frequently made of latex, but can also be made out of polyurethane. Polyurethane is thought to be a safe material for use in condoms, since it is nonporous and viruses cannot pass through it. However, there is less research on its effectiveness than there is on latex.
Female condoms are inserted into the vagina prior to intercourse. They may also be used for anal sex, although they are less effective.
A dental dam (originally used in dentistry) is a sheet of latex used for protection when engaging in oral sex. It is typically used as a barrier between the mouth and the vagina during cunnilingus or between the mouth and the anus during anilingus. A piece of plastic wrap may be used as a dental dam; Plastic wrap has been tested by the FDA and CDC and found effective in preventing the transmission of virus-sized particles, although "microwave-safe" wrap may be ineffective [citation needed]. Latex condoms can also be cut to form an improvised dental dam.
Medical gloves made out of latex, vinyl, nitrile, or polyurethane may be used as an ersatz dental dam during oral sex, or to protect the hands during mutual masturbation. Hands may have invisible cuts on them that may admit pathogens that are found in the semen or the vaginal fluids of STD infectees. Although the risk of infection in this manner is thought to be low [citation needed], gloves can be used as an extra precaution.
Another way to avoid contact with blood and semen is outercourse (non-penetrative sex), or forms of penetration that do not involve a penis, such as the use of dildos (when cleaned or covered with condoms).

[Rasputin]

Ineffective methods

Note that most methods of contraception other than the barrier methods mentioned above are not effective at preventing the spread of STIs.

The spermicide Nonoxynol-9 has been claimed to reduce the likelihood of STI transmission. However a recent study by the World Health Organization [1] has shown that Nonoxynol-9 is an irritant and can produce tiny tears in mucous membranes, which may increase the risk of transmission by offering pathogens more easy points of entry into the system. As a result condoms with a Nonoxynol-9 lubricant are not to be promoted.

Coitus interruptus (or "pulling out"), in which the penis is removed from the vagina, anus, or mouth before ejaculation, is not safe sex and can result in STI transmission or pregnancy. This is because of the formation of pre-ejaculate, a fluid (which may contain sperm) that oozes from the urethra before actual ejaculation. In addition, open sores on either partner can permit transmission. This does reduce the chance of STI transmission, however, and is sometimes recommended as a harm reduction strategy for those habitually engaging in unsafe intercourse.

[shazz]

HuH Huhuhuhuhu..Hey Man u Have To Keep this in Yer Heart Huhuhuh

[elly khoshkele]

salam... redwine jun.. u provide us with great things!! thank u!!! refering to Virginity and the incredible pragmatism of the Iranian woman: i have been taking Theory of Knowledge (TOK) for about 9 months now.... and i have to say.. this topic has come up many times before.... well i have to say to the writter of this article that khyeli eshtebah mikone... man khodam be shakhse az 4 salegi kharej az iran bozorg shodam... va pedaro madaram be man eslam ro tozih dadan... va bad be man goftan.. khodet entekhab kon ke chi kar mikhay bokoni.. va khodet entekhab kon ke che dini mikhay dashte bashi... va man eslam ro entekhab kardam... bedune inke tu iran basham... in choice khodam bud!! man be virginity kheyli eteghad daram... va ghaedatan kheyli ham dalil daram baraye in mozu....

vali man fekr mikonam ke eshtebahe ke hame fekr mikonan orfe irooniye ke majbur mikone ma khanum haye irooni virginity ro enghadr mohem bedunim.. balke in chiziye ke az ghadim tu hame jayedonya.. regardless of religion or race bude... agar ma irooniya hanuz be culturemun eteghad darim.. in dalil bar bad budane ma nist!!

man eki az dustam norwegi hast... and for those who know norwagians... they are very open about their sexual relationships and theya re usually nover virgins after the age of 16!!! vali.. hameye un dustayi ke virgin nistan.... migan ke tu norweg.... agar eh dokhtar virgin bashe.... kheyli khube....

vali eh mozuye dige ham hast.. agar eh zan tu iran baraye virgin nabudanesh motaham mishe va tu jamele angosht nama mishe... tu kharej eh dokhtari ke virgin bashe hamin moshkelo dare... man ham daghighan in moshkelo daram... i do not drink; i do not smoke; and i do not have sex..... in chiziye ke mano ba tamamiye dustan joda mikone!! hame mano eh jure dige negah mikonan... hame eh jure digan ba man..... va in ham hich farghi ba vaziyate tuye iran nadare!! pas banabarin.. kasayi ke tu kharej hastan va ya tu iran ke enghadr sange kahrejo va western haro be sine mizanan.... bedunid ke inja ham hamchin behtar nist.....

albate.... this is jus a generalisation... everywhere there are diffrent pple... i m jus retelling my side of the story!!!

i belive in humanity... i belive in respect.. and i believe in individual choices regardless of race, religion and sex..... aghideye har shakhsi moghadase va ghabele tahsine.... of course... there are some things that are acceptional!!!

omg.. TOK has changed my view on life!!!!

[Rasputin]

elly jan, khosh halam dobareh mibinamet invara .

[elly khoshkele]

merc redyy jun... bekhoda delam tangide bud.. vali kheyli akr dashtam.. bekhoda bi vafa nistam!!

[Rasputin]

Any new opinions.. !?

[Rasputin]

ماه*ها بود که دختر و پسر جوان دنبال خانه می*گشتند. قیمت*ها آنقدر گران بود که هنوز خانه مناسبی برای اجاره امکان پیدا نکرده بودند. بالاخره تصمیم گرفتند بیش از نیمی از در آمدشان را برای اجاره یک آپارتمان پنجاه متری یک خوابه اختصاص دهند که بتوانند زودتر ازدواج کنند و از بلاتکلیفی و فشار روحی خلاص شوند.

قرار عقد برای دو هفته بعد گذاشته شد. همه چیز داشت طوری پیش می رفت که دو هفته بعد درست در چنین شبی، می توانستند پس از مراسم مزخرف عروس کشان، در خانه ای که همین الان کلیدش را از صاحب خانه تحویل گرفته بودند، اولین شب زندگی مشترک*شان را آغاز کنند.

دختر و پسر هیجان زده در کوچه های پائین شهر تهران، به آدرسی که روی کاغذ مچاله شده بود، نگاه می کردند واز کوچه ها رد می شدند. داشتند در مورد تعداد مهمان های عقد و عروسی، نوع غذا، اجاره لباس عروس و پیدا کردن آرایشگاه ارزان حرف می زدند.
کلید خانه در دست پسر جوان می چرخید و در سرش به دنبال راه حلی می*گشت برای زدن از سر وته مخارج و کم کردن قسط و قرض.

از نزدیک ترین مغازه به خانه، مواد شوینده و وسایل نظافت خریدند و مشتاقانه پلاک ها را پشت سر گذاشتند. کلید خانه در قفل در چرخید و دختر و پسر جوان بعد از چند لحظه برای اولین بار، در مکانی که هیچ کس آنها را نمی دید و کنترل نمی کرد، تنها بودند. وسایل نظافت از دستشان رها شد. خون به پیشانی و سر انگشتانشان دوید و گرمای عشق نفس*شان را به شماره انداخت. روزنامه ها شتابزده روی زمین پهن شدند.

فردای آن روز پسر جوان با اضطراب پشت در مطب دکتر قدم می زد. کلید خانه در دستش می چرخید و در سرش فکر جور کردن 200 هزار تومان بود و همین طور پشیمانی و عذاب وجدان و افکار بد دیگر که پس زمینه همه آنها تصویر مبهمی از چهره مادرش بود.

در مطب دکتر، دختر با چشمان پف کرده منتظر نوبت بود. از صبح که یک ماما به او گفته بود که پرده بکارتش پاره شده و پیشنهاد کرده بود که با دریافت مبلغ 200 هزار تومان شاید بتواند با لیزر ترمیمش کند، اشک چشمانش خشک نشده بود.

دختر هراسان وارد مطب دکتر شد. هنوز به جمله دوم نرسیده بود که به طرف تخت معاینه هدایت شد. دکترتقریبا هر روز دختران جوان هراسانی را می دید که با شرم "گناهشان" را شرح می دادند. او احتیاجی به تو ضیح بیشتر نداشت. همین چند روز پیش یک دختر گریان همراه مادرش (که داشت از حال می رفت) و دو زن خشن و ترشرو که خود را مادرشوهر و خواهر شوهر معرفی کرده بودند، برای بررسی بکارت دخترک مراجعه کرده بودند. دخترک در اتاق معاینه با التماس به دکتر گفته بود که آن*ها مدیر و ناظم مدرسه هستند. از نظر آن ها باکره نبودن دختر مساوی بود با اخراج او از مدرسه. آن ها با شنیدن صدای دختر که با دکتر حرف می زد، به شدت به او فحاشی کرده بودند. دختر کوچک تر از آن بود که ذهن مادر آمادگی مواجه شدن با چنین فاجعه ای را داشته باشد. از نظر مادر این روسیاهی و بدبختی بود. اخراج از مدرسه هم که آینده دخترک را به شیوه اسلامی رقم می زد. شاید یک دختر فراری دیگر داشت متولد می شد.

دکتر دلش برای این دختر هم می سوخت. با دقت شروع به معاینه کرد و نفس راحتی کشید. به دختر گفت خراش آنقدر سطحی است که پس از چند روز کاملا ترمیم خواهد شد و هر دکتری گواهی بکارت خواهد داد. دختر باور نمی کرد. دکتر برایش توضیح داد که آن خانم ماما کلاهبردار بوده و از شرایط او و جامعه سوء استفاده کرده است. به دختر قول داد که وقتی با مادر شوهرش بیاید، گواهی بکارت را خواهد داد.

دختر کمی آسوده خاطر شده بود ولی پسر اصرار داشت که به دکتر های دیگری هم مراجعه کنند. می خواست از عکس العمل دکترهای دیگر بعد ازمعاینه همسرش هم اطمینان حاصل کند، چرا که مطمئن بود مادرش قبل از خرید عقد، عروس را برای گرفتن گواهی بکارت نزد یک دکتر خواهد برد و کوچکترین تردیدی در چهره دکتر، موجب به هم خوردن ازدواج آن ها خواهد شد. مادر که به شدت مذهبی بود وخودش قبل ازعقد بیش از یک نظر شوهرش را ندیده بود، جایی برای تردید کردن باقی نمی گذاشت. این همه سخت گیری به نظر پسر مسخره می آمد واز فکر آن کلافه شده بود. کار به پزشکی قانونی می کشید. پزشکی قانونی هم که با آخرین تکنولوژی درخدمت خانواده ها است و مو را از ماست بیرون می کشد.

پسر نمی*توانست نافرمانی کند. او پس اندازی برای تهیه مخارج عقد و عروسی نداشت و خانواده دختر هم بدون برآورده شدن شرایطشان به این ازدواج رضایت نمی دادند. دختر و پسر گیج و خسته در کوچه های پائین شهر تهران، ر اه می رفتند. غمگین بودند. شرمنده بودند. دختر بغض کرده بود و می گفت انگار در دلم رخت می شویند.

کلید خانه دردست پسر جوان می چرخید و در سرش فکراین که بابت کدام گناه شرمنده اند.
پای شان به سوی خانه ای که قرار بود حدود دو هفته بعد، پس از مراسم عروس کشان زندگی مشترکشان را در آن آغاز کنند، کشیده نمی*شد. دردل دختر، رخت می شستند؛ در سر پسر، تصویر مبهم مادرش نیشخند می زد.

[meysam_bache_bahal]

be yek nokteye kheili mohem bayad tavajoh kard,ke aslan sexe ghabl az ezdevaj dar dorane ghadim dar che joya donya mamuli bude? javabe in soal ineke dar urupa bedalile inke european people get older way faster than other people they choose to take more advantage of their short youthness.so its just like 2 cars that are driving in a highway one has only a few mintues to get to his work and might be late so he goes 80 miles an hour but the otherone has still 30 minutes but does he have to go 80 miles an hour also?

[maryam9]

didnt understand what youre trying to say...

be yek nokteye kheili mohem bayad tavajoh kard,ke aslan sexe ghabl az ezdevaj dar dorane ghadim dar che joya donya mamuli bude? javabe in soal ineke dar urupa bedalile inke european people get older way faster than other people they choose to take more advantage of their short youthness.so its just like 2 cars that are driving in a highway one has only a few mintues to get to his work and might be late so he goes 80 miles an hour but the otherone has still 30 minutes but does he have to go 80 miles an hour also?

[meysam_bache_bahal]

didnt understand what youre trying to say...

dear maryam i compared two people who are driving in a highway with two different kind of cultures.europeans because of the fact that they are very light and they become old very fast they tend to lose their virginity before marriage as they get married very late and by the time they are married if they are 34 they might look 42 or 43 which is considered as middle age and it was for this reason that middle eastern people(remember it depends on the culture if they r white like europeans and they r middle eastern they are familiar with alot of different cultures from middle east for thousands of years becuase they lived with different cultures and had alot of experiences and ups and downs with different culture and racesthroughout centuries) they tend to share the good and bad with each other because they have cousins and relatives and friends who are middle eastern looking so they really dont want to involve themselve with european culture the way other europeans do since europeans werent in contact with no culture other than european and they usually dont have noneuropean relatives so they dont follow the same path as white looking middle easterns do or most of half european/half middle easterns arent gonna be corrupted like that either cus they also have respect for their other part of their culture which is middle eastern.

[gg666]

in masaleye Virginiti chizie ke age ejaze bedan har ki ye chiz vase goftan dare. ta 200 sal digeh ham fekr konam hamin harfo hadisa bashe. Tanha in zanao dokhtara hastan ke bayad fekre khodehoon bashan va be khatere inke virgin hastan ya na nazaran kasi beheshoon chap negah koneh.