Cyber Flirting

[Rasputin]

Master the art of cyberflirting
For many of you, communicating for the first time with someone you have not yet met can be a stressful and confusing proposition. Others may actually find this easier than flirting in the offline world. Whichever camp you fall in, we hope that the following tips will help you find the right words, nuances, and keyboard symbols to send the right message to your online crush.

Opening up the conversation
If you are the first to initiate an eflirt, keep your message relatively short and simple, but always include an intriguing fact about yourself to elicit curiosity (and inspire a response).
Example: Hello! I love the fact that you're a world traveler – have you ever been to Timbuktu? (Even if you've never been, you can follow up with subsequent messages about wanting to visit.)

The "Open Loop/Closed Loop" email
If for whatever reason you are not interested in pursuing a dialogue with your eflirtee, there are a couple of ways you can send the right message without being completely rude – this is the art of the "open- and closed-loop email." The open-looped email always ends with a question; the closed-looped email does not. The open-looped email indicates you are interested while the closed-looped hopefully lets the person know to stop emailing you.

Open-looped:It sounds like you are quite a mountain biker - where do you like to ride? What kind of bike do you have?

Closed-looped:That's cool that you like to bike. Take it easy.

Timing is everything
Similar to the offline world, timing is everything – but the rules on email are different. You do not need to wait three days to return an email, but you do need to wait more than three minutes. It's a smart idea to vary your response time, and be aware of how long he/she is taking to respond to you. Also of note: responding to emails at 10 pm on a Saturday night may not send the right message (and people, especially women do notice these things).

Spelling and grammar
People have very different standards for spelling and grammar in the email world. In the beginning, try to err on the grammatically correct side of things (this way they know you are capable of writing a complete sentence). It never hurts to run a spell-check or take time to proofread. After you have established a rapport, you can take more liberty using lower case, slang terms, and more casual communication.
In no time, you'll be wooing prospective dates with your flirtatious emails

[Rasputin]

Employees are spending a great deal of working time on the Internet - some of it spent flirting. University of Western Sydney researcher Dr Monica Whitty has made a study of the art of cyberflirting. She finds that men in particular prefer the safety of cyberspace when it comes to flirting with potential partners.

Dr Whitty surveyed over 5600 men and women worldwide to determine whether people flirt online and how cyberflirting compared to face-to-face flirtation. And despite the lack of non-verbal cues to convey sexual attraction, she found that participants found cyberflirting to be just as effective as offline flirting, if not easier.

"Overall 59% of people said they flirted more offline and 22% said they flirted more online. However when asked which form of flirting was easier, there was virtually no difference, with 42% choosing offline and 41% choosing online," says Dr Whitty.

"Particularly interesting was the fact that 46% of men said it was easier to flirt online, compared to 39% offline, while for women, the results are virtually the reverse.

"You would expect that being online and having none of the non-verbal cues - such as smiling, laughing, tossing of hair, quick or demure glances, flirtatious speech and suggestive body language - might inhibit a person’s ability to flirt.

"However these results show that a lack of social presence is no impediment to cyberflirting."

Dr Whitty says to combat the lack of non-verbal behaviour, people employ basic online flirting codes.

"For flirting to occur in cyberspace, the body needs to be represented through text. So instead of making an effort to look physically attractive like you would offline, people use their online textual exchanges to describe what their bodies look like and how attractive they are," she says.

"People use emoticons - drawings made from grammatical symbols - as an alternative to non-verbal gestures. Smiley faces, winks and kisses have become the online substitute for body language.

"And rather than laughing and giggling, people use acronyms like LOL (laugh out loud or lots of laughs) and BG (big grin). Cute, suggestive or flirtatious screen names also add to people’s repertoire of online flirting behaviour."

Dr Whitty considers that men find Internet flirting easier because it’s low risk compared to putting your heart on the line in a public bar, at a party or a sleazy nightclub.

"Cyberspace provides a safe, anonymous space to play and experiment. There’s more scope for fantasy and to open up emotionally. Rejection is less likely to cause distress when you can disconnect at any time, and the chances of ever having to meet your cyber-playmate in person are slim," says Dr Whitty.

"It makes developing relationships easier for men. Many men feel enormous pressure to initiate contact with a woman and ask her out, but are put off by the thought of being humiliated. If they are rejected online, they don’t have to see this person or talk to them again, which lessens the blow."

But even with the opportunity to play and experiment when flirting online, Dr Whitty says that men and women are still reluctant to move beyond traditional gender roles.

"Despite the changes in our social conditions, it seems men and women still flirt in distinctively gender-defined ways - whether they are offline or online," she says.

"The women surveyed emphasised their physical attractiveness online and employed the online equivalent of non-verbal cues such as smiling, laughing and touching. On the other hand, men gave more attention to their social economic status, education, intelligence and demonstrated wealth by sending virtual flowers to the object of their affection."

According to Dr Whitty the results challenge the theory that the Internet is a place where there is a meeting of minds, in absence of the body.

"With cyberflirting the body is successfully reconstructed in cyberspace," says Dr Whitty.

"Cyberflirting as a form of communication is set to increase in popularity. Perhaps people flirt more face-to-face at the moment given that it is still the customary way to initiate romantic relationships. However given the numbers of people who say it’s easier to flirt online, we need to reconsider how relationships might be initiated in the near future."

[golgol85]

jaleb bood, I got it.

[donsaeid]

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[Rasputin]

jaleb bood, I got it.

Ageh experience dari,begou inja :=) .

[indian_blues]

yes i learned a lot.... want to someone to test