nothing is worse than..

[jewellry]

why didn't they end it at first? who knows? maybe her parents got nervous. did they meet u? maybe they didn't know the extent of ur relationship with her.

honestly, what is your behaviour around her... are u sure you are acting only as a friend and not as a man around her? i'm not saying blame yourself, but have you done anything to make her parents not trust the purity of your friendship?

[huebg]

no they didnt meet me, but i definitely wasn't acting as anything other than a friend. i dont even know, i'll just let the dust settle and i guess move on.

[gg666]

if u think that u can help in a way or another , without making the situation worse, then do it

gg666 midoonam, rast migid. bayad ino estefaade konam ke ghavitar besham. vali hey fekresho mikonam, doostame, fazifam nist ke ye joori in masale ro hal bokonam? akhe chera aslan in masale yehoyi peyda shod? chera? say nakonam ye joori dorostesh konam? akhe DOOSTAME.

vali chashm, say mikonam relax konam


jewellry jaan aslan, im not asking for that in the least, im not asking her to choose. that'd be very selfish and unfair to her. but what i'm saying is that her parents are also being very unfair to us both, and although i can understand some aghabneshini in terms of communication with each other, i dont understand a complete break like this. why now? why after so much time? it makes no sense.


bluesky your story makes me more comfortable, thanks. it's hard you know? you have a friend that you talk to, that you interact with every day and then you blink and you're told that you can no longer do that, and no reason except "that's what someone else wants for her".
bluesky may i ask you what you told your parents to get them to understand that a simple friendship is not dangerous, that it's ok and how you were able to continue your friendship despite your parents' worries?



as to the religion idea, i didnt mean to bash religion. im pretty religious myself, but i think that there's something wrong when you reach a stage where you don't allow someone to even talk by EMAIL to someone of the opposite gender, someone they know and see and talk to commonly. i understand it's not in our culture for boys and girls to be friends, but take into account that (1) we're all in a different culture now and whether they like it or not their daughter will be interacting with males every day and (2) if they didn't like it they could have ended it wayyyyy long ago before our friendship solidified. what made them allow it to continue this long so that a break would be so hurtful to all parties involved is beyond my comprehension.


but thank you very much to everyone for your kind words and support

[Rasputin]

Pufffffff... this life is so hard sometimes... !

[bluesky_152000]

huebeg, in a relationship, whether it's friend to friend, parent to children, children to their relatives, so on.... it shud be 2-way. its not enough if ur the only 1 caring for it. u hav to chose sometimes... its just a matter of decision.

[mahsaak]

golgol i'm in the US, she's in the US.

mahsaak vaghe'an mamnoon baraye komaketoon. i know that everything has a beginning and end, i just never imagined such things applied to friendships that were going along so well. haminjoori be khodam migam hatman kheyre, hatman ye chizi toosh hast, vali az oon taraf ham migam ke shayad bayad baraye oon chizi ke doost dari o vaghe'an haghete (doostiye maa dota vaghe'an ham haghe mane va ham haghe oo) bejangi.

i won't stop living, thanks, it just really hurts me and just thinking about it makes my heart and head throb and i feel my throat closing. like how? why? aslan chera?

but when you say stand up, fight any obstacles, do you think then that i should fight against this? masalan begam ke ok ghabool mikonam ke dige nemitoonim baa ham rahat doost bashim ya ham digaro bebinim ya ba ham telefoni harf bezanim, vali masalan emiali harf bezanim? i dont know, im just so confused right now. its so unfair....

na baba. when i say fight with every obstrucle mean, do let any think stop u in what u like, but think befor, the this problem has the worth for fighting, what about after that?? what ull gain????????? is it right. for this kinda thing try to just lestening to ur brain not feeling. couse most the time the filling make truble for us.
omidvaram aghelane fekr koni, bad har kari baraye chizi midooni haghete va mikhay bekoni, va ba moshkelat bejangi

[mahsaak]

huebg jan
look , u live once, so it ur life u can do what ever u want, but depends upon the situation u have to pay more attentin care, and do u best for,

but be carefull , think if this relationship is that much important?? if it so , so stand up and take ur steps, no matter how many or which size the obstacles are!!!!!!!11 u have to pass them , becouse of u, becouse of the time that u have passed, becouse every single word between u and her, be aan, powerfull and gentel .