Be Just Friends With a Member of the Opposite Sex

[siavash_Sa2]

thats just impossible ! how can u just be friends ?

[Rasputin]

thats just impossible ! how can u just be friends ?

Read the first post of mine, I am sure you can undrestand how :=) .

[Rasputin]

Have you ever been very good friends with someone a long time? Of course you have. Suddenly, BAM, you realize that you're in love with your former platonic companion. It happens more often then we think. And it can hurt a lot more than your 'plain old unrequited love'.

Steps
Try to list why you should not be 'lovers'. Are they in another relationship? Do they think the same as you? Don't believe that others will always think like you!
If you really want to express your inner nature to them, do it. It's always better to talk it over than keep it inside. You could burst! Sit the friend down and have a heart-to-heart, let them know your feelings.
Before you talk to them, try and find out from other people whether they 'feel' the same way about you. Perhaps they actually have a crush on you!
Don't spill everything out the moment you have a heart-to-heart. Put it in the best way possible. Know your friend: don't summarize everything into one sentence. (I love you very much, you know.) Try to both push and hesitate in your words, adding phrases like "I know this is wrong, but..." and also "Of course if you don't feel the same way, it's perfectly okay. Don't feel bad, please."
If they rebuke you politely enough, grab a pillow and cry over it. Or just find some way to express that emotion. Don't smother it under some corner of your heart.
Try to be happy. Remember, if they're happy, you should be too, if you really love them, no matter what they decide. Being depressed all the time won't make either of you happy, and distancing yourself will ruin your best friendship.



Tips
If it's your friend who says that, don't be too mean when you tell that person you do not love them.
Let them know if you want, that you still want to be friends with them but nothing more.
If all else fails, prolonged denial may result in a change of heart.



Warnings
Watch out for the friendship. If you don't want to ruin your friendship with the person, don't get attached to that individual.
Don't move in with them.
If the case is you both feel the same, then think about the outcome. Are you going to regret the relationship when you break up and never talk again?

[gg666]

mmmmm....man to pesaraye irani, ye nafaram nadidam ke betoone faghat doost bashe, yani ye dooste samimi, va ba sex ghati nakoneh chizio...
moteasefaneh, maha to dooti, kheili chizaye ghashangtar az sex ro faramoosh mikonim...vase hamin nemishe to jameye irani ziad do jens beham nazdik shan..

[asal67]

its hard with iranian girls to guys or guys to girls...

i dont know.. oghde shode... ejaze nist to farhang... vaghtiam ye jaye khali gir miaran foori mikhan poresh konan ja baraye dosti nemizaran.

me personally in this periode of my life just look at all girls as friends and nothing more. because i just dont have time for more.

or just a good friend. Iranian one.

i have alot of arab, kurd, turk, african, south american asian and europian friends. even a jewish one... good friends... but when it comes to iranian... no... hahhaha

i see that mentality is very different.
for exemple... you are friend with one europian. and from day you are as close as brother and sister. you stay that way. but with iranian, they may call you brother, but next second they may talk behind your back. backstep you or simply just try to.... anyway... you do what you can do for them. but what happens when "khareshon az pol gozasht"? they just say: you didnt do anything for me. i do all for you. so

simply... to hell with that... i stick with my foreign friends and a few (very few) Iranian ones that are cultural, intellectual and "ba khanevade" and have a "shajare name" that shows that they have roots and arent like "alafe harz".

Exactley! i agree wth u 99.9% lol
It's same situation for me..

[Rasputin]

Age Problem ...

[donsaeid]

toe pire mard negaran nabash barat pire zan jor mikonim looooooooool

[Rasputin]

Age Problem II

[gg666]

na baba...man to har seni pesar didam..hamashoon, yani bishtariashoon ba doosti ba dokhtar moshkel daran!!!!

[donsaeid]

chetor? harfeto bishtar bazesh kon and let us discuss it

[gg666]

manzooram ineke pesara mamoolan vaghti ba ye dokhtar samimi mishan, doostishoon(ke ye doostie sade o ghahashang mistooneh bashe) ro ba chizaye digeh ghati mikonano hey masaelo mipichinoonan..man tahal pesario nadidam ke beshe bahash rahat doost bood( alabate PERSIAN guys)...man ba pesaraye gheire irani ke doostam, vaghean hal mikonam, ham samimi hastim va ham hame joore poshte ham hastimo havaye hamo darim, bedoone inke doostimoon ba masaele digeh ghati konim...

gahi ham, pesaraye irani to doosti aval ziad tond miran, va baad kharab mikonan doosti ro sare masaele bachegooneh, va man ba pesaraye ke az man kheili bozorgtar ham boodam doost boodamo hastam, pas sen dalili baraye in masael nist! ama midoonam nemishe bahashoon ziad samimi shod, chon joz asab khordi chizi nadare dar akhar...vase hamin hamishe rabetamo ba hameye pesara hefz mikonam, ke ye doostie sade baese darde sar nashe!!!

[donsaeid]

manam ba dokhtar ironi natonestam intor ke ba dokhtaraye keshvaraye dige hastam basham! chon fori fekrai be sareshon mizane va ashegh mishano gheire!

be nazaret aya in rabti e farhang dare?

ba dokhtare irani dost bodam va hamon majeraye darde sar daromad ham mamolish ham virutal

[gg666]

are..vagheai o virtual fargh nadare...va baleh! hame chi be farhang bar migarde..va be tarze fekre adamaaa...

arezoo be del moondam ye pesare irani bebinam ke betoone faghat doost bashe, va az hamoon masaeli ke migi adamo azab nade...vase hamin asan ba hich pesare irani alan rabete nadaram...be darde saresh nemiarze

[donsaeid]

inam harfie!

ama nemifahmam chera intorie ba irania? farghi beyne pesar dokhtar nist! hatta masalan mibinam vietnamia, kurda, araba va gheire ba ham ye vahdate ghavi daran! ama irania sayeye hamo ba tir mizanan!

[gg666]

are are..araba ke migan inghadr khar mazhaban...koli poshte haman..hamchin pesarao dokhtara poshte haman ke nagoo..ama man irania az psht beham khanjar mizanim ke hich, 10 doram mipichinoomesh...