i got a problem

[Timsar]

ok i like this girl in iran, i am interested in her for marriage, i know her for about a year, i spent a lot of time with her in last xmas, when i was in iran, i talked to her last week, and i found out she wants to get to know this guy that lives in iran, for marriage, nothing important yet, i got disappointed :x and she found out about my disappointment she asked me y i was, and i told her that i did not want to lose a friend.

to me it's hard to be frined with a girl that has a guy in her life for something seriouse, even though this guy for her is not that important but he has a advantage he lives in iran, and i live here,,,

keep this in mind that she does not know that i am intersted in her.

so plz gimmi u r idea what i should do, i do not want to brake my pride for my heart no more...

[Anonymous]

baba en hameh dokhtar toeh donya !!
khosheh barayeh khodet!!! rafteh christmas iran fekr kardi ashegh shode va dokhtareh ham nemedoneh toh azash khoshet meyad..

move on and wish her the best....

[Timsar]

tnx for being understanding,,, ageh onjori bood khodam behtar az to mifahmam,,, but it's not like what u think, badesh ki goft ashegh,,, chera zer e moft mizani...

[Anonymous]

bah bah baze az en irani ha kheili ba adaban
so your telling me your not in love with this girl , but you want to marry her ?
hmm.....

[amir_joon]

timi jan baba man khodam ye dokhtare khob vasat dasto pa mekonam, aslan negaran nabash. ta amiro dari gham nadari.
namzadam doostaye kheyle mamane dare, age mekhay barat jooreshon konam.
darzemn age ba dokhtare to iran ashna meshe, va aghar bekhay bahash ezdevaj kone, bedoone vase khodet bahat aroose nemekone vase beletesh be USA bahat ezdevaj mekone. alan hame daran khodeshono mekoshan ta beyan enja. when she comes here and become a citizen and learn more about the right of women then she will ask for a divorce. that is a very commen thing. so think carfully about it before you tell her you are interested in her.

[Timsar]

i do not think she is like that, and she does not want to come out of iran, and that's another problem i will have with her...

hessan u do not have to be in love to marry some one, and if u r in love with the person u want to marry u r making big mistake, cuz when u be in love u do not see their wrongs and negative points... so do not try to tell me how to choose some one, i have had enough exprince...

i am interested in to getting to know her, but i do not want to tell her about me being interested right now since she is interested or wnts to get to know another person... i do not wish to put her on a 3 way road....

[Anonymous]

quote from timsar :
"hessan u do not have to be in love to marry some one, and if u r in love with the person u want to marry u r making big mistake"

well i totally disagree with your statment..
what are you thinking ! i think the majority of the ppl will agree with me.

[Anonymous]

Hessan I sorta agree with timmsar, I mean if u r inlove with someone chances are after u marry the person, living along side him/her won't be as u expected, he/she won't be as u expected and who knows u may even fall out of love, but if u marry someone u don't love, then there are no expectations and so u can learn to love that person, not being crazy about him or her, but getting used to him/her and one day u will notice that living without that person is impossible for u! and besides I personally don't believe in love anyways, I mean I did but then cr.ap happened so I learned that love is bad and it hurts and then walla! I don't believe in it anymore! ok take care
ciao

[Timsar]

hey yaas did that arab camel jocky do something to u, or is it about someone else...

hessan next time u quote some one do the whole sentence not just the part u do not like, see when u want to marry some u have to know them first u have to have a good knowledge of how they live their daily life not just the time they r with u, if u r in love with the person u r going to marry but u already have known her for a long time that's understandable... and i am guessing u r just trying to disagree with me just cuz u like to play mind games,,, and i created that...

[Anonymous]

hey guys..okay this is my take on what you should do timsar. okay you do want to get to know her so be around for her but you have to realize if she does not want to move here, it'snot practical to waste your time on her. amir is right, she will realize what things are lke here and may not stick around for a while. on your love point, i think u can love someone and marry them, but you have to have spent a long time with them to see both sides of them. i have many friends now that have gone home and married a girl they did not know and when they explain it to me, i kinda see why people do it. the marriage makes sense sometimes this way b/c they share the saem values and culture so the foundation is strong for a marriage. they get to know more as they live with eachother and do love eachother as time goes on. my ex ( arab guy) used to tell me that love comes after marriage and i kinda see where that is coming from. i mean i have been with my bf right now 2 years and guess what i am leaving and you know what he has said to me, okay well i know we cant get married so what should we do. yes we love eachother but no we cannot get married to one another. love and marriage dont always go hand in hand and it really hurts me now b/c i am 2 years with someone trying to see if we are marriage material and i am moving away to go to school and i know he will not be with me in a few months b/c he just enjoyed the time we had..see that's why love is not always the solution...i hope you dont get your heart broken but just realize friendship can be more valuable sometimes than anything

[Anonymous]

timmsar jan if it makes u happy he has gone to edmonton and hasn't bothered to call me or email me, not even once!

[Timsar]

yas u want me to take care of him, lil gosh maali, it's ok honey don't worry about it, things come and go, and i think i warned u about this befor, but u were blind to see it...

well about my rpoblem, i called her today and told her that i was interested in her for future and the reason i did not tell her last time i talked to her was that i did not want her to think i am jelouse or something, and she said" vallah nemidonam chi begam" and she said " to chi fekr mikoni darbarash fekr mikoni betonim baham bashim" man ham goftam nemidonam, ageh midonestam ta behal yek kari darbarash mikardam... badesh goft chi mikhai begam goftam begoo khodahafez, and that was it... and now i am feeling not hurt just a big gash in my pride and it sucks, i had never done that befor and i will never do it again...

tnx every one

[Anonymous]

oh well I'm sorry fo u, but I don't get it y don't u marry the gurl?!

well forget giving him gooshmali, he is a lost hope I sat by the phone for days and he didn't call and ma heart broke a bit every day! so I guess I should start to forget him!

[Timsar]

ok yasi joon which part did u not get
1. she lives in iran
2. she is intersted to this other guy
3. we do not know eachother very much
4. and that i think she does not want to come out of iran
5. i am young, she might think that i am messing around

[Anonymous]

well then i'm sorry! hope u'll find THE ONE soon!