Be Just Friends With a Member of the Opposite Sex

[golgol85]

In dorost, vali in dokhtar khanoumha hastan keh vaghti keh mifahman yek pesar dareh manzoureh digei bardasht mikoneh, kheili tond beh pesareh neshoun bedan azash cheh entezari daran !

That usually involves him losing interest in her fast and the friendship going to pieces. I dont know who loses out more, pesare ke ashegh shode bood ya dokhtare ke doostesho az dast mide?

[Rasputin]

That usually involves him losing interest in her fast and the friendship going to pieces. I dont know who loses out more, pesare ke ashegh shode bood ya dokhtare ke doostesho az dast mide?

Touyeh tajrobeyeh man, in ghazieh hamisheh dorost kar kardeh ! gozashtam khodeh dokhtareh tasmim begireh, sex ya friendship ! injuri behtareh,nah kasi narahat misheh va nah sue tafahomi pish miad.

Man fekr mikonam keh dokhtar khanoumha ,touyeh in chizha kheili behtar tasmim migiran va behtar amal mikonan. aghayoun bishtar ehsasatian va ba ghalb va cheshmashoun tasmim migiran .

[golgol85]

hm, jaleb tozih dadi vali bahse man friendship ya sex nist, friendship ya more than that (bf/gf) hast. Physical boodane relationshipeh bf/gf mozoo ro bishtar pichide mikone chon sex noe ertebati hast ke belakhare emotional mishe (ghabool daram baziha mitoonam sex without attachement dashte bashan, vali bishtare mardome donya attach mishan, che bekhan che nakhan). onaye barandan ke mitoonan attach nashan, chon mitoonan ham lezat bebaran ham hurt nashan o doostishoon bargharar bashe.

bahat movafegh nistam, be nazaram vaghti ye pesar mizareh mireh tamoome kar, vali ye dokhtar hamishe mishine fekr mikone ke chi kar kard ke eshtebah bood. pesara rahattar ghabool mikonan o move on mikonan, dokhtara na. dokhtara va pesara deal with things differently, pesara momkene ba cheshm ya ghalbeshoon tasmim begiran, vali ba ehsasateshoon na.

[Rasputin]

Khodam va kheili hayeh digeh hastim va hastan keh beh ''attachement '' ehtiaji nadaran ! javabesh sadeh hast choun,vaghti az senneh paein shorou mikoni beh dashtaneh eretbateh ziad ba sex-e mokhalef, kheili rahat mituni fargh bezari beineh sex-e khali va ashegh boudan !

Sex ba love kheili mi chasbeh,vali dardesar dareh ! dousti ro kharab mikoneh va hezar yek jour dastan pish miareh !

Dorosteh keh pesara zoud faramoush mikonan vali az yadeshoun nemireh ! barayeh hamin 90% un aghayouni keh moshkel ijad mikonan barayeh yek dokhtar,beh khatereh tajrobeyeh bad va ghalti boudeh keh dar ghabl dashtan ! in digeh 100% sabet shodeh hast !

Dokhtar khanouma, amigh fekr mikona, bishtareh vaghta ham dorost tasmim migiran . vali moteasefaneh bishtar ham azab mikeshan ! barayeh hamin hast keh man migam keh vaghti, yek dokhtari, ba yek pesar nemikhad rabeteyeh asheghaneh va ya sex bar gharar koneh, bayad ba nahayateh deghat va havaseh jam ,in ro beh pesareh neshoun bedeh !

In baz bar migardeh beh tarbiateh ghalati keh khunevadeh ha yad dadan beh bacheh hashoun ! agar az rouzeh aval neshoun bedan beh bacheh hashoun keh,fargheh ehsasateh yek dokhtar va yek pesar chieh va masaeleh marbouteh beh un, digeh in moshkelat pish nemiad ! nemisheh entezari dasht az yek pesar keh fargh beineh hameyeh dokhtara nazareh choun nah tajrobeh dareh va nah hatta khodesho khoub mishnaseh ! pesara bishtar ehtiaj beh tarbiateh khunevadegi daran ta dokhtar khanoumha ! in jast keh hatta touyeh society ham moshkel khahan dasht choun vaghti natouni ba sexe mokhalef dousti ijad koni, zamani keh bekhai ezdevaj koni,rabeteh kheili fragil misheh va controle zendegi az dast mireh !

[jsmith]

aslan taghsire dokhtarast....lol..jk...

[Rasputin]

The significance of our friendships with others only grows. Why, then, do we have fewer and fewer friends?

When is it too late to make new friends? By friends I don't mean your boyfriend's best friends girlfriend who you hang out with every Saturday night because your boyfriend wants to hang with his buddy and you by default have to make nice with his girlfriend, just so you could spend time with your guy.

By friend, I mean real friends. The kind of friend who sat with you through third period study hall, so that you can cry on her shoulder about the guy who didn't call you when he said he would. By friends I mean the friend you made your first day on residence when you didn't know anyone and were terrified of life at your new school, or the ones you made in University when you were pulling all-nighters.

I ask this question because I know there have been times in my life where my friends were crucial to the choices I made and even to my growth as a woman. Looking back to when I graduated from University, I had a very close network of friends and at that time we all thought that we would continue to maintain this close relationship for life.

However, a couple of years have past since graduation and it seems as though life has taken each of us into different directions. Some have completely been swallowed by the corporate world, others have chosen the family route and are busy keeping house, some have moved overseas and I am working as an actor.

Perhaps it is hard for us to maintain the contact that we once had, because we have all chosen such different paths for ourselves. I mean when we were in University, we were all in similar programs, we all had to cram for the same tests, all went to the same clubs and lived so close to each other. Now, we work in different careers, we live in different parts of the country or perhaps even world and of course we have different activities that entertain us now than we did back then.

So I guess it is understandable why it is harder for us to maintain contact, or perhaps even okay that some of us have lost touch all together. Our lives have taken us into different directions and frankly we are not the same people we may have been two or three or ten years ago. Time and more importantly life has a way of changing people, as we get older we become a more furnished version of ourselves and hopefully, the true self we were meant to be.

Some of us become better people capable of great things and some of us become defeated by the game of life. In the midst of all of this we call life, we don't have the same pool of people to draw from. When we are in school we have numerous people to choose as our friends, but as we move on to the real world the pool of friends to choose from somehow becomes smaller and so does the possibility of making new friends. Hence, I ask, when is it too late to make new friends?

Of course the optimist in me says it is never too late to make new friends but then the cynic in me says that since there is a time limit to everything else in life then there is a time limit to when we can make new friendships with ever lasting bonds. The kind of bonds that can carry you through the next stage of your life, which could for some people be getting married, having kids, discovering cures for diseases or perhaps just making some really good movies.

But how do we know when that is and how do we make sure that it's not too late? I'm sorry to disappoint you, because I don't have an astounding response to this question, but I guess common sense would tell me that its late to make friends when you stop being open to making new friends. Somebody wise once told me, that the only way to have good friends is to be one.
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[donsaeid]

its hard with iranian girls to guys or guys to girls...

i dont know.. oghde shode... ejaze nist to farhang... vaghtiam ye jaye khali gir miaran foori mikhan poresh konan ja baraye dosti nemizaran.

me personally in this periode of my life just look at all girls as friends and nothing more. because i just dont have time for more.

or just a good friend. Iranian one.

i have alot of arab, kurd, turk, african, south american asian and europian friends. even a jewish one... good friends... but when it comes to iranian... no... hahhaha

i see that mentality is very different.
for exemple... you are friend with one europian. and from day you are as close as brother and sister. you stay that way. but with iranian, they may call you brother, but next second they may talk behind your back. backstep you or simply just try to.... anyway... you do what you can do for them. but what happens when "khareshon az pol gozasht"? they just say: you didnt do anything for me. i do all for you. so

simply... to hell with that... i stick with my foreign friends and a few (very few) Iranian ones that are cultural, intellectual and "ba khanevade" and have a "shajare name" that shows that they have roots and arent like "alafe harz".

[Rasputin]

Saeid jan, man hamchin moshkeli nadaram ! chand dokhtar khanoum-e irani hastan dar U.S.A, U.K , France and Germany (Real Life,not in Stupid virtual world) keh doustayeh kheili khubi hastim !

Ehtemalan in bar migardeh bishtar beh ''bad education/character'' kasi keh ehtemalan hamchin rabetei ro nemituneh dashteh basheh, cheh dokhtar va cheh pesar ! beh irani boudan,rabti nadareh .

[donsaeid]

ama dare educated ones too bazia darkeshon balast va ensanhaye ba khanevadei hastan ona chera ke na ama baghie foori mikhan zanet beshan, ya age dokhtar bashi shovaret beshan....

be irani bodan va on oghdeye bodan kheili rabt dare

[MASHSAEED]

GIRL CAN NOT HAVE A MALE FRIEND IF SHE IS INVOLVE OR MARRY..CLOSE THE THREAD PLEASE

[donsaeid]

what? Why mashadi?

[Rasputin]

GIRL CAN NOT HAVE A MALE FRIEND IF SHE IS INVOLVE OR MARRY..CLOSE THE THREAD PLEASE

Don't be sure about that ! i have lot friends between ladies !

[Dokhtare_Malous]

but if she is not INVOLVE OR MARRY then she could have a male friend i mean not as BF but just friend and i really think that it is a good idea for a girl be just friends with guys in my opinion.

[golgol85]

GIRL CAN NOT HAVE A MALE FRIEND IF SHE IS INVOLVE OR MARRY..CLOSE THE THREAD PLEASE

This is what i call backwards thinking. a girl, married or unmarried, can have friends of the opposite sex. why are you so close-minded?

[Rasputin]

In jaleb nist keh ma aghayun,natunim ba khanoumha faghat doust bashim,bedun-e entezar-e chiz.e digeh !