Divorce

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az in dastan ha ziyad shodeh.
dige eshghe vaghe sedaghat bavafaei mohabat hameh ingar az beyn rafteh
va badbakht bacheha ke in haro bayad tahamol konan va bizicheh injor pedaro madara mishannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

[Rasputin]

Divorce

Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse, which can be contrasted with an annulment which is a declaration that a marriage is void, though the effects of marriage may be recognized in such unions, such as spousal support, child custody and distribution of property.

In many developed countries, divorce rates have increased markedly during the twentieth century. Among the states in which divorce has become commonplace are the United States, Korea and members of the European Union. In the USA, Canada, the United Kingdom and some other developed Commonwealth countries, this boom in divorce developed in the last half of the twentieth century. Japan retains a markedly lower divorce rate, though it has increased in recent years. In addition, acceptance of the single-parent family has resulted in many women deciding to have children outside marriage as there is little remaining social stigma attached to unwed mothers in some societies. The subject of divorce as a social phenomenon is an important research topic in sociology.

A divorce must be certified by a court of law, as a legal action is needed to dissolve the prior legal act of marriage. The terms of the divorce are also determined by the court, though they may take into account prenuptial agreements, or simply ratify terms that the spouses have agreed on privately. Often, however, the spouses disagree about the terms of the divorce, which can lead to stressful (and expensive) litigation. A less adversarial approach to divorce settlements has also emerged in recent years, known as family mediation, an attempt to negotiate mutually acceptable resolution to conflicts.

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History of divorce

Divorce in some jurisdictions is a relatively recent phenomenon. In Canada there was no divorce law until the 1960s. Before that the only way to get divorced was to apply to the Canadian Senate where a special committee would undertake an investigation of a request for a divorce and if they found that the request had merit, the marriage would be dissolved by an Act of Parliament.

Divorce (in Civil Jurisprudence) - Article in the 1908 Catholic Encyclopedia

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Causes of divorce

An annual study in the UK by management consultants Grant Thornton, estimates the main causes of divorce based on surveys of matrimonial lawyers.

The main causes in 2005 (2004) were:

Extra-marital affairs - 27% (29%)
Family strains - 18% (11%)
Emotional/physical abuse - 17% (10%)
Mid-life crisis - 13% (not in 2003 survey)
Addictions, e.g. alcoholism and gambling - 6% (5%)
Workaholism - 6% (5%)
According to this survey, men engaged in extra-marital affairs in 75% (55%) of cases; women in 25% (45%).

In cases of family strain, women's families were the primary source of strain in 78%, compared to 22% of men's families.

Emotional and physical abuse were more evenly split, with women affected in 60% and men in 40% of cases.

In 70% of workaholism-related divorces it was men who were the cause, and 30% women.

The 2005 survey found that 93% of divorce cases were petitioned by women, very few of which were contested.

53% of divorces were of marriages that had lasted 10 to 15 years, with 40% ending after 5 to 10 years. The first 5 years are relatively divorce-free, and if a marriage survives more than 20 years it is unlikely to end in divorce.

Regarding divorce settlements, as defined by this survey women obtained a better or considerably better settlement than men in 60% of cases. In 30% of cases the assets were split 50-50, and in only 10% of cases did men achieve better settlements (down from 24% the previous year). The 2005 report concluded that campaigns like that of Fathers 4 Justice must succeed in increasing the percentage of shared residence orders, in order for more equitable financial divisions to become the norm.

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Religious/cultural attitudes to divorce

Many countries in Europe, such as France prohibited divorce as it is not condoned by the Catholic church. Sometimes citizens travelled to other jurisdictions to obtain a divorce.

In Islam divorce is allowed, although discouraged. Only the husband can decide to have a no-fault divorce. Under Sharia law, a husband may repeat a declaration of divorce three times. A man may have plural marriage under Sharia law.

Islam, unlike Christianity, considers marriage to be a legal contract; and the act of obtaining a divorce is essentially the act of legally dissolving the contract. If a man pronounces three divorces against a free woman, or two against a slave, he can lawfully wed neither of them again, unless they have been espoused by another, and this second husband dies, or divorces them.

Judaism recognized the concept of "no-fault" divorce thousands of years ago. Judaism has always accepted divorce as a fact of life (for example, see Deuteronomy chapters 22 and 24), albeit an unfortunate one (for example, the prophet Malachi states "'I hate divorce,' says the LORD God of Israel"). Judaism generally maintains that it is better for a couple to divorce than to remain together in a state of constant bitterness and strife. Also see [2] and Get in the Conflict of Laws.

Within Christianity, divorce has become almost commonplace, and the interpretation of the Holy Scripture on divorce widely varies among Christian denominations. However, the first 400 years of the Early Church, the church maintained a rather unanimous voice on divorce.

The Christian teachings on divorce come directly from the teachings of Jesus Christ of Nazareth and the Apostle Paul of Tarsus. Jesus' teachings can be divided into two categories: those directed towards the Jews in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:3-9, and those written primarily for the Gentiles in Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18 .The essence of Jesus' teachings on divorce was to state the fact eight times that the one who remarries after divorce "committeth adultery". Two of the eight adultery statements contained exceptions in the case that the wife had committed fornication, while the other six were unconditional. Although Jesus touched on the subject of divorce in three of the Gospels, Paul gives a rather extensive treatment of the subject in his First Epistle to the Corinthians chapter 7. His clear teachings on the subject were: "Let not the wife depart from her husband... let not the husband put away his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). Once again, he alludes to his position on divorce in his Epistle to the Romans, albeit an allegory, when he states "For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth...So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress" (Romans 7:2-3).

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Divorce's financial implications

Divorce leads to the creation of two households rather than one, with consequent increased costs. All parties suffer these effects. As more men are awarded child custody, many of the roles and difficulties described below may be reversed, although men who are awarded custody have historically been less likely to be awarded child support or alimony.

Women often financially suffer as a result of divorce due to lower earning potential in many countries, and to their greater historical role in rearing children (these causes are not unrelated). They more often obtain custody of children after the divorce, reducing their ability to pursue well-paid employment. Child support collection is a major problem: some fathers do not accept that they have an obligation towards their children, while others accept such an obligation but cannot fulfill it. Many national and local governments provide some kind of welfare system for divorced mothers and their children.

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Divorce's medical and psychological implications

Until recently it was thought that divorce was almost always a positive experience for spouses. More recent longtitudinal studies have revealed that many divorced people are no happier after divorce (although some are). For example University of Chicago sociologist Linda Waite [Waite 2003] analyzes the relationships between marriage, divorce and happiness using the National Survey of Family and Households. Her research shows that unhappily married adults who had divorced were no happier than those who had stayed married. The 13 measures of well being include self-esteem, personal mastery, depression, purpose in life and alcohol drinks per day.

Until recently it was also thought that children's difficulties with divorce, while common, were short-lived. However, recent work has shown that a major cost to children comes long after: when they attempt to form stable marriages themselves. There is extensive and heated debate over just how much harm, just how many children are harmed to what extent, what factors mediate the harm, and so on; however, even strong optimists such as Mavis Hetherington [Hetherington 2002] acknowledge that many (not all) children of divorce are substantially disadvantaged. Hetherington (a University of Virginia professor) also states that 70% of children coming from divorced families consider divorce an adequate answer to marital problems (even if children are present), compared to only 40% of children from non-divorced families.

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Muslim societies

No-fault divorce is allowed in Islam, though Islam discourages divorce.

If the man seeks divorce he has to cover the expenses of his ex-wife feeding his child and expenses of the child until the child is two years old ( that is if the child is under two years old). After the second birthday the child returns to the father.

If it is the wife who seeks divorce, she must go to a court. She must provide evidence of ill treatment, inability to sustain her financially or sexual impotence on the part of the husband. The husband may be given time to fix the problem, but if he fails, the judge will divorce the couple.

[mahsaak]

manzooret az inhame naghd chi hast????? chio mikhay sabet koni, ta boode hamin boodeh, un bad bakhtayee ke mikhan ezdevaj konan (che love marage che arenge one) az ayandashoon khabar nadaran je ,che khahad shod, hata hastan unayee ke bade hata 20-25 sal zendegi baham ,az ham joda mishan
chon avale zendegie zire yesaghf ghashange bade 5-6 sal dige adi mishe, chizi ke mimune daghdagheye fekri abraye edameye zendegie. man khodam bacheye talagham. ba tamame vojoodam in masalaro tajrobe kardam, soali dashti az khodam bepors. in ke ravanshenasa va rasaneha chi migano bendaz door, bezar unayee ke tajrobasho daran harfe dorosto bezanan

[Vandfald]

Hmm many of persian parents are getting divorce here in DK.

My parents was getting divorce once, but they decide to give it another try .

[Rasputin]

manzooret az inhame naghd chi hast????? chio mikhay sabet koni, ta boode hamin boodeh, un bad bakhtayee ke mikhan ezdevaj konan (che love marage che arenge one) az ayandashoon khabar nadaran je ,che khahad shod, hata hastan unayee ke bade hata 20-25 sal zendegi baham ,az ham joda mishan
chon avale zendegie zire yesaghf ghashange bade 5-6 sal dige adi mishe, chizi ke mimune daghdagheye fekri abraye edameye zendegie. man khodam bacheye talagham. ba tamame vojoodam in masalaro tajrobe kardam, soali dashti az khodam bepors. in ke ravanshenasa va rasaneha chi migano bendaz door, bezar unayee ke tajrobasho daran harfe dorosto bezanan

Bebinam mageh kasi shoma ro zoor kardeh,unikeh man minevisam,shoma biaei bekhooni !? inja forum hast va hich chizi zoori nist ! man dar moredeh hameh chiz minevisam,vaseh har kasi keh alagheh mand basheh, hala mikhad car basheh ya movie, sex basheh ya music ! shoma tashrif bebar dooste aziz,un chizi ro bekhoon keh alagheh dari .

End of The Subject !

[huebg]

In Islam divorce is allowed, although discouraged. Only the husband can decide to have a no-fault divorce. Under Sharia law, a husband may repeat a declaration of divorce three times. A man may have plural marriage under Sharia law.

are you sure about this? i think it's twice, and on the third he must divorce.

in regards to the plurality of wives, please if you're going to mention it, at least explain the way it is, the history behind it, why it is permissible, the cultural and historical implications and applications.
dont just say it and leave it at that so that people think you can just simply marry another person. and also very very very very few people have more than one wife, even if they fulfill all the rules and regulations regarding a second one. it's a really overblown thing intended to make islam look bad, while its root is all a historical issue and really has little application in our world today.

regards

[mahsaak]

red wine ma baham dava darim?????? man faghat nazaram goftam, fekr nemikardam post gozashtan to forume shome inghade be shoma bar mikhoreeeeee??? man age un soalaro porsidam mikhastam bedoonam hadafet chie!!! mage kholam alaki dava rah bendazem. goftam shahyad hadafi dashte bashi

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are you sure about this? i think it's twice, and on the third he must divorce.

in regards to the plurality of wives, please if you're going to mention it, at least explain the way it is, the history behind it, why it is permissible, the cultural and historical implications and applications.
dont just say it and leave it at that so that people think you can just simply marry another person. and also very very very very few people have more than one wife, even if they fulfill all the rules and regulations regarding a second one. it's a really overblown thing intended to make islam look bad, while its root is all a historical issue and really has little application in our world today.

regards

Here.. i was talkin about divorce ! nothing else !

Very soon i will write an article about marriage and other stuff .

Lots ppl PM-ed me and told me what you said here ! ok.. when i have a time ,i will do it .

Thx for your reply !

[huebg]

in islam, divorce is "the worst halal thing in the eyes of Allah"